A Few Hints

A Few Hints

You can take this as advice or just reading material but I find them to be interesting (a bit cheesy and obvious but interesting). They have been circulating the Net for sometime now in different form. I thought it would be interesting to read and slightly dissect. Some agencies – one in particular - hoping to appear as “do-gooders” post this on their home page as advice. There is some truth to this advice but at the same time it is written to accentuate the positive and clearly lacking in depth analysis. No agency will ever tell you the entire truth, they will only tell you what they want you to hear. The person who originally wrote this article did so for Russian women and her agency. Subsequent and similar articles on other agency sites are basically cut and paste jobs of this piece. Substitute the word foreign every time you see Russian as this applies to all foreign women.
So here are four pieces of advice:

Any western man searching for foreign brides specifically in Eastern Europe please take heed of this advice, as it will help your adventure become successful. It is imperative that you do NOT do the following:

1. Do not believe for an instant that foreign women are searching outside their borders for the sole purpose of leaving their country. Just like you would not want to live with someone you don't like, Eastern European women are looking for a man that they can like and share a home with. If they wanted to simply get out of Russia, they would not have all the requirements they have about the man they want (wish) to meet.
(Delete – trying to sell agency)
Russian women seek compatible partners, not just a way out of Russia. Remember this when contacting (Eastern European) Russian women you meet online.

Yes we all want compatible partners but most foreign women seek a better life as well as a compatible partner. You may have all the best traits and be compatible but if you live in a trailer home your compatible partner may disappear a couple of days after arriving. It should be noted that “compatible” for agencies means that 500 men will buy the same address for one lady so compatible, in effect, means profitable.

2. Do not think that Russian women will love or admire you just because of your passport.

Many men think a Russian woman will like them simply because they live in a better country. This is, of course, is not enough - a Russian woman also expects to be courted and treated with dignity and respect, just like a western woman.
You have to establish a genuine relationship to be able to bring your Russian fiancée to your country - forget the stories about 'mail order brides’; you cannot buy or order a bride!

“Live in a better country” – by writing this our agency lady has opened a Pandora’s box without even realizing her error. The contradictions and the possibility for endless debate are outstanding. Read our article “Better Life”.
I love that part about “ordering”. I agree that there is no such animal as a Mail Order Bride (per se) but if you can’t actually “order” a bride why do so many agencies have the words “Order this Girl” on their agency websites. If you are paying for an address you are placing an order. You should ask for a side order of fries. Makes you want to go hmm…

3. Do not think that Russian women are less intelligent or less educated than you are.

Some people think Russian women are less educated or less intelligent than women in their country. This is simply not true. In Russia, according to the latest census, more than 60% of women hold a college or university degree.
Men visiting Russia usually say that Russian people are well educated on a variety of subjects and 'very smart'. If you are looking for a woman who is intelligent and educated, it will be easy for you to meet a woman like this in Russia.

Can’t argue any of this, it’s fairly obnoxious to assume someone else is less or more educated. It is true that women in Eastern Europe are well educated and that education is easily accessible and virtually free (In comparison to the west where we get fleeced for years to come). It is also true that two out of three Russian television newscasts are run by the Kremlin and the third is monitored closely therefore social education at the moment (just like the good ‘ol days) is a sucker punch. On a higher education level it has also been well documented that $200 in your exam book buys good grades in Russia so take that for what it’s worth. That is not to take away from the majority of academic pursuits by those who earn their degrees. Devil’s Advocate, don’t shoot the critic.

4. Do not think that all you need is to send her a ticket and she will come to you tomorrow.

Most people in the west are not aware that it is nearly impossible for a Russian woman to get a tourist visa to United States, Canada or Australia. The are numbers of Internet criminals that prey on this ignorance and contact unsuspecting men through large dating sites, using fake identities and asking for money for visas and tickets. If you ever receive such a request from someone who pretends to be from Russia, the first thing to do is to contact your Embassy in this country and ask him or her if this person applied for a visa, and whether they have been granted the visa. 99 times out of 100, the person with this name never applied for a visa.
Never send money to anyone who pretends to be a Russian woman and asks you for money for visa and tickets! This is the most common Internet dating scam, and these people are not real. There have been were a number of people arrested for scams like this, including Americans.

I do not personally know any man who is is not aware of Internet scams. Most Newbies may not be prepared for scammers but by reading discussion boards on this site or elsewhere they become quick experts.
“Through large dating sites”…Of course no mention was made that the huge majority of scammers use agencies and the agency owners are responsible. Nonetheless it is very true and common sense that no man should ever send money for any reason.

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